Are You a Good Parent?
Epstein Parenting Competencies Inventory (EPCI) v. 1.5, © 2007-2014, Dr. Robert Epstein  

You are about to take the Epstein Parenting Competencies Inventory (or EPCI). Designed by Dr. Robert Epstein (follow on Twitter at @DrREpstein), one of America's most distinguished research psychologists, this is a comprehensive inventory of ten types of skills - "The Parents Ten" - that are important for raising happy, healthy, productive children. The content of the test is based on scientific studies, and the test has been empirically validated with a group of more than 2,000 parents. Higher test scores are associated with better outcomes in child rearing.

Most people are able to complete the test in less than 15 minutes, and there are no right or wrong answers. Just select the response that seems best. After you answer all the questions, you will be given a detailed report that will give you your scores and explain what they mean. This is just the start; once you know your EPCI scores, there are many avenues you might pursue to improve your parenting skills.

If you are conducting research and would like to collect raw data for a group that is taking this test - for a business, research study, classroom activity, or other purpose - please see our Group Testing Instructions

NEW! If you are a parent of teens or preteens, you might want to take Dr. Epstein's newest test, the Epstein Teen Parenting Inventory, accessible at TeenParentingSkills.com.

Also available now: If you know a young person who is depressed, angry, or defiant, he or she might be suffering from Extended Childhood Disorder. Find out at ExtendedChildhoodDisorder.com.

Before we get to the inventory itself, we'll ask you a few basic questions about yourself. Demographic information is being collected for research purposes only and will be kept strictly confidential.

To make sure the scoring is accurate, be sure to fill in all the blanks!

*Required response


Group code (if applicable):


*First name and last initial:

*Age: 

*Highest Degree:
None
High School
Associates
College
Masters
Doctorate

*Race/Ethnicity:
White
Black
Hispanic
Asian
American Indian
Other

*Gender:
Male
Female
Other

*Sexual Orientation:
Straight
Gay or lesbian
Bisexual
Other

*How fluent are you in English?
Not fluent   10  Very fluent

*Are you a parent?
No  Yes

*How many children have you had?
10+ 

*Have you ever been married?
No  Yes

*Are you currently married?
No  Yes

*Have you ever been divorced?
No  Yes

*If you are a parent, how long have you been one?
Years:  Months: 

*On a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest, how happy have your children been (on average)?
Low   10  High

*On a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest, how healthy have your children been (on average)?
Low   10  High

*On a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest, how successful have your children been in school or work settings (on average)?
Low   10  High

*On a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest, how good has your relationship been with your children (on average)?
Low   10  High

*On a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest, how good a parent do you think you are?
Low   10  High

*Have you had any training or education in parenting?
No  Yes

*If so, approximately how many hours of training or education have you had?


If a teacher, counselor, physician or other professional suggested that you take this test, please identify him or her, as well as his or her institutional affiliation.


Thanks! Now here is the test itself:

For each of the following questions, select the answer that best applies to you.


*1. I take my child in for medical check-ups on a regular basis.
Agree             Disagree


*2. I plan ahead to avoid last-minute stress.
Agree             Disagree


*3. I am careful never to say negative things to my child about other people who are important in his or her life.
Agree             Disagree


*4. I have trouble putting a positive spin on things.
Agree             Disagree


*5. I encourage my child to live a moral life.
Agree             Disagree


*6. I sometimes do nice things for my child just because I love him or her.
Agree             Disagree


*7. I'm always available to answer my child's spiritual questions.
Agree             Disagree


*8. I generally support my child's decisions.
Agree             Disagree


*9. I manage money well.
Agree             Disagree


*10. I always try to be aware of my child's hopes and dreams.
Agree             Disagree


*11. I encourage my child to get good grades.
Agree             Disagree


*12. I support my child's spiritual development through special schooling or other means.
Agree             Disagree


*13. I participate with my child in the celebration of religious holidays or other religious or spiritual events.
Agree             Disagree


*14. I reward my child far more often than I punish him or her.
Agree             Disagree


*15. I encourage my child to bathe regularly, brush his or her teeth, and in other ways to maintain good hygiene.
Agree             Disagree


*16. I encourage my child to exercise regularly.
Agree             Disagree


*17. I read and try to learn new things in order to serve as a good role model for my child.
Agree             Disagree


*18. I always provide adequate food, clothing, and shelter for my child.
Agree             Disagree


*19. I try to make sure that my child gets restful and adequate sleep.
Agree             Disagree


*20. When I penalize my child, I make sure that he or she has some way to earn back what was lost.
Agree             Disagree


*21. I encourage my child to read.
Agree             Disagree


*22. I set a good example for my child by regularly participating in spiritual or religious activities.
Agree             Disagree


*23. I encourage my child to stay away from friends who may be a threat to his or her safety.
Agree             Disagree


*24. I try to involve my child in healthful outdoor activities.
Agree             Disagree


*25. I have always tried to teach my child to maintain positive and constructive relationships with other people.
Agree             Disagree


*26. When in a relationship, I always try to be aware of and to fulfill my partner's needs.
Agree             Disagree


*27. I'm good at putting a positive spin on things.
Agree             Disagree


*28. I set a good example for my child by eating healthful foods.
Agree             Disagree


*29. I regularly give my child chores to do in order to teach him or her how to handle responsibility.
Agree             Disagree


*30. I often ask my child about his or her hopes and dreams.
Agree             Disagree


*31. I occasionally struggle with serious bad habits, such as alcoholism, drug abuse, or gambling.
Agree             Disagree


*32. I make a point of rewarding my child when he or she follows my instructions.
Agree             Disagree


*33. I never put down or insult my child.
Agree             Disagree


*34. I always try to support my child's participation in legitimate spiritual or religious activities.
Agree             Disagree


*35. I've been physically affectionate with my child over the years in ways suited to his or her age and needs.
Agree             Disagree


*36. I rarely ask for my child's opinions.
Agree             Disagree


*37. I am open about sharing my religious and spiritual beliefs with my child.
Agree             Disagree


*38. I always try to find ways to reduce sources of stress for myself and my child.
Agree             Disagree


*39. I always encourage my child to respect the religious beliefs of others.
Agree             Disagree


*40. When in a relationship, I try not to argue in front of my child.
Agree             Disagree


*41. I constantly strive to improve myself.
Agree             Disagree


*42. I continually try to lead by positive example so my child can imitate my good behavior.
Agree             Disagree


*43. When I am employed, I always show up for work prepared and on time.
Agree             Disagree


*44. I try to teach my child how to solve problems on his or her own.
Agree             Disagree


*45. I typically have a steady income sufficient to cover my expenses.
Agree             Disagree


*46. I have trouble managing money.
Agree             Disagree


*47. I often find myself overwhelmed by stress.
Agree             Disagree


*48. I make sure that dangerous items and substances in my home are not accessible to my child.
Agree             Disagree


*49. I try to encourage my child to express his or her individuality and uniqueness.
Agree             Disagree


*50. I make rules for my child that are appropriate to his or her abilities and maturity level to try to keep him or her safe.
Agree             Disagree


*51. I always try to teach my child how to be safe when engaging in potentially unsafe activities.
Agree             Disagree


*52. I regularly take my child to the doctor and dentist for check-ups.
Agree             Disagree


*53. I think about and plan for the future.
Agree             Disagree


*54. I only punish my child for the purpose of teaching and never because I am out of control.
Agree             Disagree


*55. I encourage my child to socialize with people who have spiritual or religious beliefs.
Agree             Disagree


*56. When in a relationship, I have trouble apologizing and forgiving.
Agree             Disagree


*57. I am always prepared for emergencies and possible hard times.
Agree             Disagree


*58. Whenever it's appropriate, I try to coordinate my parenting with the other parent.
Agree             Disagree


*59. I never punish my child for something he or she did accidentally.
Agree             Disagree


*60. I'm always available when my child needs someone to talk to.
Agree             Disagree


*61. I keep my home clean and well organized.
Agree             Disagree


*62. When in a relationship, I often have trouble communicating with my partner.
Agree             Disagree


*63. I have often told my child that it's important to respect the religious beliefs of other people.
Agree             Disagree


*64. When in a relationship, I am always ready to apologize and forgive.
Agree             Disagree


*65. I teach my child constructive ways of reducing and managing stress.
Agree             Disagree


*66. I encourage my children to keep up with current events.
Agree             Disagree


*67. I regularly try to attend events at my child's school.
Agree             Disagree


*68. I always treat my child with respect.
Agree             Disagree


*69. I rarely attend events at my child's school.
Agree             Disagree


*70. When I'm away, I always make sure my child is properly supervised.
Agree             Disagree


*71. When in a relationship, I often have trouble resolving conflicts with my partner.
Agree             Disagree


*72. I often reward my child's good behavior.
Agree             Disagree


*73. I keep safety items, such as a fire extinguisher and a first-aid kit, in my home.
Agree             Disagree


*74. I try to make sure that my child completes homework assignments on time.
Agree             Disagree


*75. I always make sure my child has appropriate supervision when I am not available.
Agree             Disagree


*76. I keep in touch with my child's teachers.
Agree             Disagree


*77. I encourage my child to wear protective gear when participating in potentially dangerous activities.
Agree             Disagree


*78. I regularly reward my child for following my instructions.
Agree             Disagree


*79. I encourage my child to set goals for him- or herself.
Agree             Disagree


*80. I try to exercise regularly to serve as a good role model for my child.
Agree             Disagree


*81. When my child talks to me about health-related issues, problems with friends or school, or other sensitive matters, I try to be supportive and not to judge.
Agree             Disagree


*82. I have taught my child ways to handle emergencies, such as fires or accidents in the home, appropriate to his or her abilities and maturity level.
Agree             Disagree


*83. I occasionally take time away from my child to recharge.
Agree             Disagree


*84. I try to reward my child's good behavior immediately so my child can associate the reward with the good behavior.
Agree             Disagree


*85. I try to serve healthful meals at home.
Agree             Disagree


*86. I'm good at prioritizing.
Agree             Disagree


*87. I try to avoid self-destructive ways of dealing with stress.
Agree             Disagree


*88. I make sure my child always has the school supplies and educational resources he or she needs.
Agree             Disagree


*89. I try to teach my child how to manage his or her emotions.
Agree             Disagree


*90. I try to be available to my child if he or she needs help with his or her homework.
Agree             Disagree


*91. When in a relationship, I make sure I spend quality time alone with my partner.
Agree             Disagree


*92. I generally encourage my child to make his or her own choices.
Agree             Disagree


*93. I regularly practice relaxation techniques such as meditation, breathing, or imagery exercises.
Agree             Disagree


*94. I try to teach my child positive methods for managing the behavior of others.
Agree             Disagree


*95. I always encourage my child to be positive and caring toward other people.
Agree             Disagree


*96. I often reassure my child that when he or she does something wrong, I still love him or her.
Agree             Disagree


*97. I often ask for my child's opinions.
Agree             Disagree


*98. I've warned my child about the dangers of illegal drugs and try to stay aware of his or her possible drug use.
Agree             Disagree


*99. I always show my child that I'm listening carefully by expressing interest in what he or she is saying.
Agree             Disagree


*100. No matter how busy I am, I try to spend quality time with my child.
Agree             Disagree